Baby on Board? At Work?

by datkins Email

The Boston Sunday Globe features an article by Maggie Jackson on companies that are experimenting with allowing employees to bring their infants to work with them. It's a controversy magnet of an article, but worth considering the underlying issues it exposes.

Bottom line for me, if I were running a company, I would say let's give it a try and see what happens. If an employee feels they can be more effective if they are able to bring their newborn/infant to the office...and if it fits the office dynamic, it might be good for everyone involved. It might be the difference between another new mom who decides to "never come back" and someone who, in a supportive work environment, finds a way to balance things.

But there are so many issues...

  • Although infants require less attention than toddlers, the first baby is always more effort because it is all new to the first-time mom. It is a little insulting to suggest that some women could continue doing their jobs, occasionally tending to the baby, while others stay at home to raise their kids. But that's a parenting judgment and really nobody's business.
  • We all carry around work ethic ideas, even in our changing workplace, that we fall back on. No matter how flexible the schedule or how good the employee is at communicating expectations, there is still something magical about 9am and 5pm (plus or minus a few hours in some industries). A baby in the office disrupts people's assumptions and they don't know what to do with that. Is she working hard enough? Is she being distracted by the baby? Am I being distracted by the baby? It is funny how people get judgmental about others work habits so quickly, but it does boil down to an issue of fairness...people want to be treated as equals or better. But what does fair/equal mean when you try to compare people at different life stages? E.g. singles vs parents?
  • Babies and kids in general just make some people uncomfortable. Frankly, they make me uncomfortable. I love my kids, but I'm just not a "baby person." I had never held a baby before my first born and I think I still have not held anyone else's child. But again...so what? Nobody is asking you to hold the baby at the office...don't fear what hasn't happened yet :) So many of the "what if" negative questions are really just things bound up in people's individual neuroses and shouldn't be allowed to get in the way of something that could be positive for everyone.

I think companies should keep an open mind and if an employee wants to give it a shot...go for it. But everyone should recognize that while it is an opportunity for growth, it many not fit the company. If it doesn't work out, then the manager will have to make a difficult decision and deal with the consequences. But perhaps if all that is discussed openly up front, it can be managed without too much disruption and bad feelings.

2 comments

Comment from: Christine Perkett [Visitor] Email · http://www.perkettprsuasion.com
Dave,

You beat me to the blog post about this article. As I read it I could connect with so much of the frustrations moms face. But one resonating question in my head was, "What about the Dads?" The entire article was written as though women have to be the only ones to balance work and family and it's all on our shoulders. Why can't the Dads share the burden when the nanny calls in sick or the day care has a gas leak? But that's another article for another day...

As an employer, we require that parents have some kind of child care in place but we're virtual so if the day's child care doesn't work out, our employees CAN indeed work and watch the children. It's not an ideal day-to-day solution (trust me, I know from experience how hard it is to concentrate and watch the children) but it's a start. Our virtual structure allows for more flexibility, less commute time and more options for seeing your children in between the day's conference calls and projects, not to mention being home in time for dinner - a rarity in this day and age.

I don't think allowing children into every workplace is ideal but for some, like the retail store featured in the article, it does work. I also think child care issues are one of the driving factors behind women starting their own businesses - we're taking control of our own destinies and making our own choices, not waiting around for government or employers to catch up to the need for such important flexibilities and options.

Thank you for writing on this subject.

All the best,
Christine Perkett
PerkettPR, Inc.
06/03/08 @ 09:36
Comment from: Carla Moquin [Visitor] · http://www.babiesatwork.org
I run the non-profit mentioned in the article (the Parenting in the Workplace Institute). Wanted to mention that a number of dads *do* bring their babies to work, particularly in companies that have had a baby program for some time (it tends to start with moms, but then dads see how well it works and decide to try it too).

Also, the companies with these programs have found that the great majority of coworkers end up feeling invested in the babies' well-being and enjoy pitching in as needed to help out the parents (play with the babies, take them for a 5-minute walk, etc.). It can actually be really nice for the parents bringing the babies because they and their babies benefit from the social and support network of the workplace--there isn't the isolation felt by a lot of stay-at-home parents. And coworkers find that having babies around makes them feel calmer and less stressed--people talk about taking "baby breaks" if they're having a bad day. There really doesn't seem to be resentment from coworkers about "special treatment" issues in companies with structured programs--the babies tend to be really happy because parents are so responsive to their needs (to avoid crying issues that would be disruptive to coworkers) and because of all the social stimulation they get from others in the workplace. The happy babies create a "community parenting" effort, so there really aren't issues (again, in companies with clear guidelines) with resentment, etc.

Structured guidelines/policies (which is what we strongly advocate) prevent a lot of potential problems, such as what you mentioned in your post (asking people to watch the baby who really aren't comfortable with it, etc.).

Carla

06/03/08 @ 09:57

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